Exactly Ban together Just because you pay more doesnt mean your better. I have my children 3 Nights a week, 3.5 days a week, the garnishment was sent to my employer, the first amount is 213.00, plus an additional 6.00 applied towards back child supppt. Just reading ur rant against 50/50 custody for anyone states why urs would never work because of you yourself. She said no. Those payments run from tens of millions to hundreds of millions of $$ per year. Tina, If I was still with the woman, and I was laid off for a period of time, would she, being in the same house with me, be punishing me for not having a job by billing me thousands of dollars more? 5) Because they think the system is biased against fathers. HERE IN SC, THEY GO ACCORDING TO YOUR INCOME AND HE MAKES MORE THAN ENOUGH, AND YET MAYBE MAKE A PAYMENT EVERY 2-3MONTHS. Way to go legal system. I had to track it sown to get credit and when I did they didnt refund my 9000 of being over paid they just kept taking and I was quite a bit ahead. . Helping out financially with anything she needed. We shouldnt be financially struggling just because we have been divorced with a child. Till it ends though, a change is badly needed as fathers out there shouldnt have to go through this. Only for her to go for child support which she never paid to him she was barley in their childrens lives before they were 3 and 4 . Didnt think so. KIDNAPPER. I know it sounds totally crazy to guys who dont actually do the work of raising children themselves, but hand it off to their moms, gfs, and exes: if youve got care of a child, youre going to make less money. Grow up and do what YOU need to do. My goal is to raise a well rounded emotionally stable child peace, Child support is on top of child supportso dads in sd pay their child support and also half of daycareforces dads into poverty, I would like to see receipts for expenses for children through child support services, so child support is paying for moms drug or alcohol habits. Make sure you get a decent lawyer because shes a woman and automatically has the law on her side. Hmm so where do i go from here i found out she purchased a house back in 2006 for$277,000 when she did her financial report she said she was only getting 1000 a month, HMMMM now i start looking into more info, the case worker does not care, all they care about is getting my money, where do i go from here?? It was wasted time and energy. "So, be politely persistent. Stop your whining I am currently unemployed and I pay $1,600 for one child and my x-wife makes 70k a year and I have nothing save for retirement. 3)Again. Just sad, he raised his kids til they were teenagers, was married to her for 14 years, until she cheated, and now he doesnt get to be there for them as mom used them as a weapon and still tells them he doesnt pay, so they send him not so nice emails. Under child support law, child maintenance must be paid to the parent with the main day-to-day care of the child. Check out our Virginia Child Support Calculator. I have to beg churches for food assistance I can only receive once a week. Men have complete control. My ex wife fell out of love all the while falling in love with a coworker while Im at work taking care of business or home with my children. This means that a judge can still order child support even if both parents state they do not need it. I made all the mistakes. I live in texas, so the case worker says you can file an appeal but have to be in court !! Its design results in discrimination against fathers both in terms of custody and child support. but going back to your point is that I think if a women who has 3 kids and receives $287 a month then any other women can make it. Her husband alone makes over 30K then me. 2. This debt of mineis all interest on a balance that shouldve never existed in the first place. Absolutely! My ex drives a 2015 new model car, I drive an 1989 toyota Camry. If the mother has no income, the state gets nothing (10% of 0 = $0). Simply, it's an attack on the nature of a father's freedom and how he best wishes to raise and support . Women in general did stand by their man in those days. Have a physical confrontation with wife and/or children. But her word of mouth and a note someone wrote for her granted me to pay amln extra 542 a month on top of the base child support. And for the record I know children are expensive hence the reason I am one and done. My ex wife took my kids and went to the other side of the country because her boyfriend (I had no idea) wanted her there. I raised my daughter essentially by myself, I was a stay at home father and her and I were with each other every day. They are both under the mistaken impression that custodial parents (NOT their children) are entitled to child support payments. No parent would want to see their child hurt. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would have been locked up for molestation, and had my kids taken away. it is a human rights issue that disproportionately and unethically affects fathers and their children to the tune 97% of all obligations financially insofar as child support payments are the father paying it- whether they are a better parent and excellent or not, whether they were domestically abused by the mother or not, whether the children were abused by the mother or not, whether the mother has a criminal history or not and even whether the father has actual custody or not not moms getting that insane obligation percentage across the board. Or at least split the time. Its totally free to join, and the federal court relief being demanded includes the full restoral of my child custody rights under law, plus a nice share of the large amount in civil damages expected. He had the other 7 women on the show, but me. Many people dont realize this. But the pendulem has swung all the way to the other side and it doesnt appear that its going to be put where it belongs..in the middle. If a woman can legally give her kid up for adoption and be absolved of any financial obligations to that kid why shouldnt a man be allowed to do the same?He cant because she can trick a guy into getting her pregnant, get cash and food stamps from the State AND get the state to harass, extort, threaten, and terrorize some guy into paying her under threat of garnishment, loss of rights, imprisonment etc.. No wonder your ex got himself locked up. So many flaws when it comes to child support and the extras but for some reason they make absolutely no changes! So whatever works best for the parent is what should happen? Thats a different story. Absolutely right.. There will be someone out there that will be honest and get you through this. Now he is going to court in a few days to show why he isnt in contempt of court and our 10 month old baby may have to see her father go to jail because of this corrupt system!!! 8 out of 10 male friends in the circles of my work and personal life have been through the same asymetrical court systems spanning multiple states. Pass the word.I know I am not the only one come forward. At that, the interest money goes to the ex spouse, as well. You sound completely impossible to co-parent with. And I can see when the child support check is cashed off my bank statements Each month its cashed a weekend I have my girls And the next week when I get my girls back They didnt do anything but sit on their tablets and didnt get snacks like they do with me (fruits and vegetables) but their mother does have a brand new car, The problem is no one wants to advocate for the fathers. So how will my kids stay with me when all I have is a rented bedroom? Sounds like they both made a mistake equally and theyre both paying for it equally. He is so far in arrears because the state that is enforcing the order has neglected to follow through with the modification our state filed for him! But the system was established nearly 40 years ago, and is based on outdated stereotypes that viewed Mom as a housewife and Dad as the sole breadwinner. Such BS. Attorney services are provided by licensed attorneys in every state where Cordell & Cordell offices are located. As Graham points out, 29 percent of families in the system live below the federal poverty line. As long as the children are healthy and clean when they come home to you, it really isnt your job to tell you X how to raise the child. They NEED TO BE CHANGED or at least have these concerns be brought to light.. Sorry youve been done so wrong that your mind has been clouded. THE MONEY CAN BURN, it wont save anybody. We may not be getting Ben and Jerrys, may need to cut the cable for a while, not get that new iPhone, etc. My wife walked out on me and our children they live with me we were married for 18 years she wanted something different i am disabled i asked her to pay to help me with them she did for a couple of months and stop i just had to take child support out i was told even if they live with me i may have to pay her child support that is not right i was told most fathers dont get child support but that is not right either moms can be dead beat moms to be no one says that. I had to move in with family and my closest relative lives close to an hour from my children. I will not go to a court and put him on that crap, it would do nothing for her lively hood at all. I have never understood why child support is based on gross wages. So just like every other tax-man I have ever met you are woefully uninformed and clearly do not have a gasp of real life sufficient to comment on real world matters. The Judge asks my council to hold a telecon with my exs council in the Judges chambers. Its interesting that when a fathers income increases , the judges dont have a problem with increasing their support amount . I have no problem paying but it seems Im stuck paying for all of it and her getting a free ride. Office of Child Support Enforcement. these facts are not my own just do your own research if you dare. I sold my car and I walk with a back pack everywhere. Both women and men are guilty of being that way.Women are not perfect and men are not perfect and as long as the courts are biased nothing will ever change. He apparently needs his Me Time after work to go to happy hour and smoke weed. The Federal Parent Locator Service uses a national database to track down noncustodial parents to enforce payments. She tracked him down when he was in seminary, a widowed man with two small girls to raise after his first wife died of cancer. the non sense of putting one parent into poverty is ridiculous and its not just. Being an advocate for family law reform, I can assure you that there are 10s of thousands of guys who would agree with him. Dont buy into this best interests of the child lie. She died in 2014, and a lot of them paid lip service to her after having not talked to her for decades because they stabbed her in the back for being the first fathers rights feminist. Given the capacity for errors in human judgment, of course there may be fathers who have heartbreakingly had access to their children unjustly restricted. Lisa Karges, Florida Resident Partner - Tampa, FL. I work full time and receive a $250-300 check every 2 weeks. In my experience almost all divorced women claim to be abused. How about holding the mom responsible for where the cs goes? Lets face it, our government (federal, state & local) cant even manage their funds s0 in exchange, the system becomes over burdened, yet the salaries of the government employees continue to rise. 10 years later, she still hasnt save one dime for their college. All us good dads want is a voice to be heard and change in this messed up system. But still always there for my kids. Morally and ethically maybe but the government should not be mandating how or if someone raises their kid. Once she aborts the fetus, the females interests in and obligations to the child are terminated. Recently, firms that specialize in men's divorce have popped up all over. your opinons are based on ignorance, ego and idiocy. It seems to work out so well for them????? Largely because governments and feminists dont want me to have control over their sexual reproduction. I know what my kid likes because I spend quality time with him when I can and i expose him to numerous activities to broaden his horizons. If the support order is for $1000/month that equals $100 for the state. etc. This means that the paying parent (almost always the father) winds up with standard parenting time or can have the children more but doesnt have the economic resources appropriate for the expenses he will have on the children. She has called CPS on me to keep me from seeing my granddaughter cause I have supervisor rights. The problem is that all of us good fathers, as evident by the comments on this site, are lapped together with all the real deadbeats out there. I wasnt about to go, now my kids are over 30. (Im sure you can sense the dripping sarcasm.). And continue to incentivize the worst women to destroy their soon to be ex-babys daddies. CS is Servitude not ParentingCS needs to go away except in cases of actual abandonment. Black slaver, Jim Crowe and apartheid were laws as well. Products like vasalgel and the male pill are always kept five years away with no reason given. I said he was a great dad and does everything he needed to. Its not forever though. None of that matters to me, but it does when our daughter, his only child in the world, gets upsets because she cant see her dad, he has nothing to say to her when he calls, he does not show up to any of her extracurricular activities nor does he even ask what she has going on, he doesnt show up to any of her school awards days or activities, and he has not given her a birthday or Christmas present in three years!! In my situation, we had an agreement for over 6 years for a set amount. Theres a lot that needs to change if we really want to do what the research shows is best for children. I sat and watched a judge laugh it up all buddy-buddy with 3 dads behind on support. I got a hotel room and bought four window units. How am I supposed to survive when I make 1550 per month after taxes but the city thinks I can somehow afford $987 per month. Its about FATHERs rights. 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