I made a promise to myself that one day Ill make them both pay. We all have people who we tolerate. The store had these barcodes they would stick on things to mark them down if they were expired. Once she gets back though, I'm alright again. To whom do we confide our secrets? I once pooped in their garage because I was waiting for her to come home and let me in. Years ago, I got a summer job at a grocery store. Instead I got pregnant." By Justine Harman Published: May 29, 2015. You've been totally open about your feelings when it comes to just about everything. quite the opposite, i love him more for speaking up. (Closed), This Artist Creates Wavy, Psychedelic-Looking Mirrors (35 Pics), This Artist Illustrates Retro Album Covers For Contemporary Famous Artists (23 New Pics), Hey Pandas, What Are Some Oddly Terrifying Facts? but that living situation has taken a toll on me in various ways thatd i love to expound upon for those who are interested. I cant do this for another 50+ years. They reported information on how many and what kinds of secrets people had confided in them over the years, with 14 categories of secrets about infidelity, sexual orientation, abortion history, sexual assault experiences, engaging in physical abuse, having had a mental illness, having a sexually transmitted disease, having cheated in professional, academic, or money matters, having lost a lot of money, having issues with alcohol or drug abuse, having committed a crime, and about religious beliefs. My wife only put a tiny bit of peanut butter topping on hers with no PB filling. My mom couldnt afford to feed us in the summer without the school lunches, but she made slightly too much to qualify for food stamps. Alan Watts. "I'm not sure I actually love him, or if I just don't want to be alone or start a new relationship from scratch." Photoalto / Getty Images / PhotoAlto. I can never tell him the truth. A lot of people are rational about sex. My mom hated my ex (lets just call her Sarah) for how bad she hurt me when we broke up. My mom passed away about a week after seeing Sarah at the mall, and she gave Sarah dirty looks and a cold shoulder. His brother is 42 and only dates 18-20 yr olds, one of which he creeped on since she was 16. She can be super helpful by playing your wing woman with no judgments attached. He told me I was being dramatic. I remember it was the second date or something and he was like, "I would never date a virgin, they cling to you and get delusional that you are the one." No offense to the OP (you do you babe!) 5. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 235 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to. I consider this my deepest and darkest because you would think that witnessing a naked girl in person would strike me but it just doesn't. I don't even masturbate because I think it's weird. "In all secrets there is a kind of guilt, however beautiful or joyful they may be, or for what good end they may be set to serve. The idea of playing dumb, one form of knowledge hiding, may seem to be a bad idea if you're trying to impress others. In retrospect hed shown all of the signals, but I refused to see them, so I let him drive away. You wouldn't hand out this privileged information to just anyone, but you need your BFF to be caught up on the newest season of Stranger Things so you can talk about it together. He made it look like an accident cause he thought it was the only way to take care of my mother set her up with his life insurance. Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. Last year I went into the hospital for Covid. I had a turnaround that night and lived and slowly started recovering. Was pretty shocking thing to hear while on vacation with the whole step family. Omg I never realized you were supposed to wait until you got home. In hindsight, I've been r***d by my first boyfriend. Puppy Love. 01 Your Current Crush Giphy This is always a fun secret you naturally have to tell your BFF. i had a former coworker who was a total c**t to me. In the first study, the researchers surveyed 200 participants with an average age of 35 years old and asked them to think about the characteristics of who they would want to tell a secret they were currently keeping. Secrets get organized around shame and embarrassment and the management of reputation, and they remain accepted within our social groups. They were making out and he was fingering her. I havent told anyone in my family, including my dad who adored his father/grandfather. "You wouldn't do it, right? Your bestie is the only person you can trust, so clue her in. They all died in a car crash 5 years later. So it was duped and accident and my mom got the money my dad intended her to get. I technically did pay for the groceries because I was checking them out at the self-checkout and paying money for them, but I was getting salmon fillets and racks of ribs for $2, big veggie trays for $1, expensive cheese for $.99, etc. Im just miserable. It's hard to build confidence when my whole life has been about what's (objectively) wrong with me when everyone around me, including my romantic partners, compliment everything except my appearance. Men have long been silent and stoic about their inner lives, but theres every reason for them to open up emotionallyand their partners are helping. That said, most of our secrets arent the sort of thing that would interest the local police, you know? 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Weird family. i was so anxious about getting in trouble that i used a gift card (purchased at a store using cash) and a throwaway email account to purchase the prank. If you want to get really close in your 20s, there are some secrets to tell your best friend that'll inevitably strengthen your bond. I like to spread it out so I can have an enjoyable snack a few days in a row.Sometimes I'll even buy one with gluten in it intentionally so she can't have it. Weird family. 40 People Reveal The Deep Secrets They've Kept From Their Partners For Years Rokas Laurinaviius and Mindaugas Baliauskas Your romantic partner is typically someone you think you know quite well. ", "Exactly how bad of a person I used to be before I met her. Endings are always painful here's how to make them less so. If we stopped romanticizing it so much & were just honest about it, i probably wouldnt have cared. Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB. Her father once told me : if he could go back in time, he would never have dated her mother and have kids with her. That person could be the annoying coworker you have to get along with, or that friend in the group who you just don't get along with, but she's part of the crew. I didnt want her to know what he got into. But she cringes and covers her ears whenever a loud noise occurs. In the fifth and final study, the researchers asked the 500 participants to think about a time they had confided an actual secret, and to rate the qualities of the person in whom they confided. and i never bothered to share those details because i never wanted to make a sob story out of a situation that i was blessed to get out of and that many people are still currently in. And i feel sorry that women rejected you because you opened up about it. His mother asked me what happened. When we were leaving the parade my husband was flexing all his nice new beads and thinks Mardi Gras is the best thing ever. I've never discouraged him seeing them because he loves them but I hate being around them. Im from south Louisiana and my dad is in a Mardi Gras Crew. She asked me if I have any deep secrets like that. Behind the closeness though, there are still a few situations that you . His grandmother is a manipulative narcissist. People are dumb when they are young, I was dumb enough to feel I had to lie in the first place. Through Ancestry DNA testing and processes of elimination, I discovered my paternal grandfather is not my biological grandfather. I just watch porn in fascination. I was a teenager, from a poor family, just trying to get a job so that we could afford food. Nothing dark, but I hide pints of ice cream in the back of the freezer. Your feedback will help us improve the article. It was early in our marriage when we were living with her to save money for our own place. Gilbert Parker. I know I will make it through this, but it has been very helpful to say this. It's annoying AF, and you need to tell someone about all of your Tinder date horror stories. I reached the bathroom, washed and then went back to my tent to sleep. Every year hes on a float throwing beads.My husband has never been to Mardi Gras so his first time he was so excited and it was at my dads parade. No man is going to stop me from peeing in the shower (yes I clean the shower regularly, thanks). That Im unsure if I will ever be able to express and maintain deep emotional intimacy with anyone. What is the darkest thing you have kept from your partner? Im 99.9% sure my uncle is not my dad, but my real father hasnt been around since I was very young. His sisters room was on the way to his and as I passed it, I saw them together. He just thinks that because he was so enthusiastic, he got all the good stuff. If you go days without showering, you can certainly tell your BFF and know she won't judge you for it. bigchickennuggies10 , pexels Report. So I don't mind that much. That the real root of my trust issues stem from how I was sexually assaulted by my extremely religious godparents son when I was 11-12. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a relatively common problem, often difficult to treat. she straight up bullied me at work. You can confess to your BFF who it is you don't particularly care for. He loves going on roadtrips and does landscape photography. Declining mental health and everyday drug addiction. When I was about 13 I caught my mother having sex with her brother. You feel your secret as a literal weight, dragging you downward. Politeness may create a barrier to vulnerability, based on our fear of breaking social norms and causing discomfort for someone who tends to value being appropriate, and enthusiasm may breed hesitation to open up to someone who's fun-loving and energetic, but is not serious enough for deeper discussions. Take this quiz with friends in real time and compare results. In the second study, a similar group of participants were asked to describe themselves using the same 40-item instrument gaging compassion, politeness, enthusiasm and assertiveness. Secrets that can hurt your marriage are ones concerning: But there are some things you might consider keeping to yourself, like: At the end of the day, every couple decides where to draw the line. she knew I grew up in the projects up until age 10, but I think because i never wore it like a badge of honor or carried myself in the stereotypical way of someone who would come from that environment, many people think i was unaffected. Another example is the show Deep Dark Secrets. As they reach adulthood, their parents struggle to help them cope. Slepian ML & Kirby JN. "Declining mental health and everyday drug addiction. Tweet. Im still keeping his secret. I wish I hadn't been so good at hiding it.I needed help. I do this simply because its one of the few hobbies in his life he gets to enjoy and I want him to have someone to play it with. Edit: just wanted to add a few things. I wish I hadn't been so good at hiding it. Im 64 now. but that living situation has taken a toll on me in various ways thatd i love to expound upon for those who are interested. Sometimes I buy a chocolate bar when I go to the grocery store and eat it before i get home. I was almost happy that a virus was going to do what I was too chicken shit to do myself. There's something so morbidly satisfying about confessional horror stories from real people on the internet. So ya I'm like a goldmine of information. Maybe you've already shared this information with your best friend, and that's why you're closer than ever before. We are finding out more and more about the how and when of these incidents, and learning who is involved in these dark rituals. After coming to peace with it Id just like to urge anyone with that mindset. . I know I was there, my husband was there, but that is about it. We can keep secrets about others to protect them as well, out of complicity and social propriety, keeping the peace even when we know revealing the truth is the right thing to do. Cave law number 1: you own the whole cave and everything above it. a few months after quitting that job, i looked up a revenge prank site, and had a box of cow shit mailed to her at my former workplace. Your feelings for significant others have flattened as you disengaged to avoid telling the truth. I realized that I still had the rolls of printed-up stickers in my pocket when I got home because I had been marking things down that day. 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When we're in our 20s, we've probably distanced ourselves enough from our somewhat bizarre and embarrassing high school days, making those secrets much easier to tell. That first night after I cried non-stop, I told him the truth. Her marriage of 28 years had ended badly and she was emotionally fragile. I've never told anyone.". You don't have to deal with it on your own. I lose my smile, I lose interest in all my hobbies, everything. ", "That I feel trapped and I hate myself and my life and I really just want to disappear and move away and leave my wife and three kids so they can finally be free of me, I feel like such a burden and so guilty that my kids love me, theyd be better off without me. Secrets that terrible appear to threaten our very being the choice to speak or not to speak tearing away at us, even outside of consciousness. I am in such bad pain now and its only going to get worse. You sense a deep chasm between you and people you love. By creating an account, you agree to the Terms of Service. Hope he's changed. Mindaugas has worked as a freelance photographer mainly doing events, product photography and has a recurring passion for macro photography. A dark twist was added at the end of the show. She's my ex now, but, she had just revealed to me some very, uh, confidential information, info I understand I'm one of only four people to know. Deep Dark Secrets is another example. We distort self-perception to serve our narcissistic needs, making ourselves look better than we are, and we see ourselves in a more negative light than we deserve. I keep dark thoughts and feelings from him all the time, I'd make him miserable if I didn't. Toilets, quilting, and tainted Jell-O are just a few of the absurd skeletons people are hiding. Sometimes I spend whole meetings wondering how they got the big meeting table through the door. 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